Free dictionary defines Body Shame as,
” The act of criticizing,ridiculing, or otherwise making someone feel ashamed about ( some aspect of ) their physical appearance,especially their weight “.
Simply put,shaming of somebody, based on the size,shape and appearance of the body.
Individuals can be fat,thin,tall or short.Body colour can be black,brown,or white.These are not deficiencies but Gods way of creation.Describing a person ugly by appearance only tells about your low esteem.
Celebrities too are responsible for inventing ‘Size-zero’ ( 31-23-32 ) concept,such that many young girls are falling prey to the medical disease called Anorexia Nervosa.
Body shaming is said evolve in three ways.
1. Criticizing one’s own appearance through a judgement or comparison.
2. Criticizing another person in front of them.
3. Criticizing another person’s appearance without their knowledge.
( Source-Body shaming-what is it & why do we do it )
It can start from bullying in schools with nicknames,jokes and even unsolicited advice.Body shaming is a hidden villain in our society.
Some common examples:
- You have such a pretty face,if only you would just lose some weight.
- As you enter the store ,sales person telling on the face ‘we don’t keep stock of Plus Sizes here’ Uh-huh …
- Are you having some health issues ?
- Friendly tips being given to improve body posture,skin tone, hairstyle or cloths being worn.
- Boys don’t want fat girls,a mom advising her daughter.
- You are so skinny,not fit for joyful sex.
- Oh see this Baldy and observe his funny looks
- My God… is it pimples on her face or face on her pimples !
- OMG ! Look at her, bigger assets so tempting !
- I am going to divorce you because of your body appearance !
The list can go on……
Why most of us are instantly tempted to comment on someone else’s body ?
The whole problem starts because most of us are programmed to judge the others by their physical appearances,and the worst human habit is ‘Comparison’ and having ones own ‘Bench marks’
Can’t we develop the habit of looking at everyone as Beautiful,since all of us are created by God ?
What body shaming can do ?
It ruins people’s lives.It makes one hate one’s own body.Self confidence at its worst.Many go into mental depression,anxiety disorders,stop eating, even suicidal tendencies.
“No body is perfect and your imperfections are what make you flawless” unknown
Have not you heard the idiom’ one man’s food is another man’s poison ‘……this clearly tells that what you see as full of flaws may be some one else’s beauty.
Is body shaming a sort of sexism ? I don’t know.
” Bodies are nor ugly, Bullying is “
Please share your thoughts.