It has been a tough lesson.

Being expectant of people.

Giving chances.

Hoping they would come round to appreciate your actions or reciprocate them.

How do you come round to realizing you must not expect a reflected image of your feelings and actions?

It’s simply not a button that you turn on when you feel like it.

Like everything else in life, when you want to learn something new, you break enough sweat and you toil through the process of achieving your goal, until you arrive at it with pride.

That’s the only way to earn the status you deserve.

Likewise, bringing an end to your quagmire of expectations is only attainable with being let down consecutively and repeatedly until the message finally sinks into your brain and lodges in your heart.

Only when you’ve been turned down time and time again, do you realize that you’re bringing this hopeless torture unto yourself.

Surely, everyone deserves a happy life.

But right now, you’re just acting like it.

You deserve to be treated well and appreciated and for that to be a constant in your life, you should for once cherish your heart and place it above others.

I’ve come to believe that when I don’t expect things from people and actually place the worst scenarios first (not that I’m being pessimistic) but it’s then that I appreciate the good things they do.

On the other hand, always expecting good behavior and being disheartened by their lack of sensitivity towards you,

that, my friend, is the death sentence you’ve just dished out to yourself.

The pain that unappreciation of others towards you creates in your heart is needed. It will toughen you. It will teach you to value yourself more and it will be a constant reminder, in case you one day forget, not to be as giving and trusting as you once had been.

People need to deserve your love.

Not to take it and throw it to the ground, only to be walked over until it becomes tattered and smudged.

Value yourself. You are worthy of the best treatment.

5 thoughts on “Expectations

  1. True stuff mate ✔️💯
    Yess value yourself 🙌🙌

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    1. thanks!
      And glad to see another of comments on my posts. 😊😊

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      1. Pleasure always for beautiful stuff mate ✔️

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  2. What a great post! I really needed to hear this. It’s been a rough year and there are people whose regular mistreatment discourages me. Maybe I can instead just be delighted when they decide to be civil.


    1. It’s been the same for me and I’ve just recently began noticing the change in myself. Hence, the post. I wish you well Melissa. Believe me, you will see happier days and find delight in the lessons that were sent your way. ❤️

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