Universal rules- Rule No 1.King is always right Rule No 2 If the King is wrong,then follow the rule no 1,ie,the King is always right.

Blame game
A man can fail many times, but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else. John Burroughs

Blame Game

Be frank.We all indulge in blame game,whatever may be the nature of the problem we face, because we don’t wish to take the responsibility .We even argue that we are always correct,and the other is at fault.( remember the rules…the king is always correct ! )

Very rare to find people,who blame themselves.

The  unlaid rule is  I can never go wrong !

Why it is so ? Let us think.

We all lie,and learnt the art during childhood and fine tune it as we grow, and to escape the situation,’lie’ comes handy.

By blaming others, you are in a defensive mood,and can pass the buck easily.

“Blame is a beautiful thing, baby. Blame keeps this whole planet spinning. You can point your finger at the next man, you can shift the weight onto him, you don’t have to carry that shit around yourself. You can slide into bed and get a good night’s nap. Yeah, right”.

Narrator-Augustus Hill ( played by Harold Perrineau) from Oz tv series

Remember,

Blame is fascinating –

“it shapes our lives. It can be a benign way of positioning ourselves, a gentle joust or banter, or it can be poisonous, hurtful or devastating for its victims. It can tear apart marriages and fracture work relationships; it can disable major social programmes; it can inflict damage on powerful corporations; it can bring down governments; it can start wars and justify genocides”.

Stephen Fineman, The Blame Business: The Uses and Misuses of Accountability

Don’t forget,

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.”       Wayne Dyer

Any thoughts on how not to get trapped by the Blame game ?

Please share your views.

Thank you.Philosophy through photography

IS-Splitshire pixabayWayne Dyer

 

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37 thoughts on “Universal rules- Rule No 1.King is always right Rule No 2 If the King is wrong,then follow the rule no 1,ie,the King is always right.

  1. Blaming one another only drains each other’s energies. So instead, once in a while accept the blame. It saves unnecessary drama and the opposite person feels better about himself/herself and that’s OK.

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  2. “Wisdom stems from personal accountability. We all make mistakes; own them… learn from them. Don’t throw away the lesson by blaming others.”

    ― Steve Maraboli

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    1. Couldn’t agree more. Thank you Young Efi, Good morning Greece !

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      1. Is 55 years old young ????? Thank you so much!!!

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      2. Shh….Shh…don’t reveal the age….for a 100 yrs old fellow 55 is definitely young ! Ha ha

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      3. A woman decided to have a facelift for her 50th birthday. She spent $5,000 and felt pretty good about the results. On her way home, she stopped at a news stand to buy a newspaper. Before leaving she said to the clerk:

        “I hope you don’t mind my asking, but how old do you think I am?”

        “About 32,” was the reply.

        “Nope! I’m exactly 50,” the woman said happily.

        A woman decided to have a facelift for her 50th birthday. She spent $5,000 and felt pretty good about the results. On her way home, she stopped at a news stand to buy a newspaper. Before leaving she said to the clerk:

        “I hope you don’t mind my asking, but how old do you think I am?”

        “About 32,” was the reply.

        “Nope! I’m exactly 50,” the woman said happily.

        Now she was feeling really good about herself. She stopped in a drug store on her way down the street. She went up to the counter to get some mints and asked the clerk this burning question.

        The clerk responded, “Oh, I’d say 30.”

        Again she proudly responded, “I am 50, but thank you!”

        While waiting for the bus to go home, she asked an old man waiting next to her the same question.

        He replied, “Lady, I’m 78 and my eyesight is going…

        “Although, when I was young, there was a sure way to tell how old a woman was. It sounds very forward, but it requires you to let me put my hands under your bra. Then, and only then, can I tell you EXACTLY how old you are.”

        They waited in silence on the empty street until curiosity got the best of her.

        She finally blurted out, “What the hell! Go ahead.”

        He slipped both of his hands under her bra and began to feel around very slowly and carefully.

        After a couple of minutes of this, she said, “Okay, okay…How old am I?”

        He completed one last squeeze, removed his hands, and said, “Madam, you are 50.”

        Stunned and amazed, the woman said, “That was incredible! How could you tell??”

        “I was behind you in line at McDonald’s.”

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      4. Ha ha ! Efi, you made my day.Thank you

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      5. Laugh!!!!!!!!!! I am trying to correct the comment ..

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      6. I have copied two times the first paragraph but i can not correct it .. never mind .. you understand the meaning LOL!! Kisses my friend!!

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  3. anovicescribe Oct 23, 2018 — 14:28

    I just loved your perspective!!! A comprehensive take on blame in an inclusive way. 👌👌👍👍 BLAME is a paradox in itself, I think!!!

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    1. Thank you so much Anovicescribe You hit the point .

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      1. anovicescribe Oct 24, 2018 — 11:26

        I think, you jit the point I just mentioned it 👍👍👌🙂😊

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  4. Very true..Blaming takes us nowhere, instead we even miss the lesson that the episode was meant to teach🙏

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  5. True..bt still we can’t stop blaming

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  6. A successful liar would be better putting his talents to use elsewhere!

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    1. Very true.This fellow need not waste his time !

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  7. I don’t play the blame game… I believe that those who blame use that as a way to deal with their own perceived failures, insecurities, etc… 🙂

    “Holding on to bitterness is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die”…

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    1. Thank you Dutchll for taking your time.It’s true.People blame others because of failures forgetting their on inefficiency,not willing to accept.Your wonderful quote summarises everything.

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  8. Hey there,
    I particularly like the last quote that talks about blame not fixing whatever it is inside of us that is making us unhappy. It’s a huge deal to take responsibility for our own happiness and satisfaction in life. Many outcomes are the result of a choice we made, and even in the circumstances that we did not choose to be a part of, it’s still on us to get back to a happy and content place.
    Great thoughts shared here.

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    1. Hi Kiana,Thank you so much for the lovely response.Yes,I agree what you said.One should not try to give excuses and as you said the last quote summaries all.

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  9. You asked — “Any thoughts on how not to get trapped by the Blame game?”
    Answer — Blame the person blaming of being a blamer.

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    1. Wow Wow ! Excellent answer!. Your wonderful answer made me create a new word and a sentence.
      Both blamer and Blamee are to be blamed.
      Thank you for taking your time .

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  10. Hi there! This is the first time I’m seeing this. And Yes I agree. The world does like to blame shit. But it is what drives passion, it gives purpose. I too like to blame people. I like to blame people that deserve the blame. I will accept blame for my actions or what I feel responsible for, and I will deflect the blame that people put on themselves and toss it to some random passerby. A scape goat. Because thats what scapegoats are for.
    No sacrificial meek lambs. No martyrs. I’m cutting down goats who like you gloat. the King is dead baby, the world is waiting for their QUEEN.

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    1. Yeah,thank you Kalliope,for your perspective.You are a bold girl.

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      1. Hehe learn how to stay clean and wash away your sins, not with the blood of the lamb but with the soap of the opera. Be brave, be bold, and be beautiful. Make the many stories of the people the wholly attainable ideals.

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  11. Grand quotes! Wonderful observing. ❤️🦋🌀

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    1. Thank you Sheila Murrey.Glad you liked it.

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  12. I am not certain that this is always true. Sometimes people such as children and physically, developmentally and emotionally challenged children and adults cannot defend themselves properly, so yes, things can happen that ARE someone else’s fault. I am not sure we are on the same page on this one. You might be keeping it in the context of say one adult claiming another is responsible for something that they have done, but in this world, there ARE people who are able to take true physical and mental advantage of others and to hurt the others, so perhaps the only thing needed is some sort of context. I was a victim of child abuse, but there is no way that I was responsible for that, and if I said this for the rest of my life, it would still be true. Now if I had done something to cause that to happen, your context could be correct, but we just need to realize that there ARE always conditions where the victim is NOT the cause of anything. I think I understand your context though, but there needs to be a way to differentiate. Thank you kindly.

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    1. I couldn’t agree more Anne Copeland.True,in some situations,victims can not be blamed.Iam on the same page after going through your reply.Thank for stopping by and giving a wonderful insight.

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