WHAT IS BED?
Disorders of any form is bad. Eating disorders is something which is a major concern which I feel we need to address. Many of us do not even consider it as a problem. Sometimes the person who is going through this might not even realize it as a disorder or something that need to be changed.
Binge Eating Disorder(BED) is something which I can relate to out of many of other eating disorders. From name itself we can understand that it is where one person has large quantity or high calorie food having no control over it. The urge to eat is so bad that sometimes we are in a trance until we are done eating. The after effects of BED is usually worse. There is a lot of guilt and because of overeating, you feel terrible and often drained out of energy.
Triggers for any disorder are mostly psychological. Most rooted issue being in the society where everyone has one stereotypical perfect image especially about women by which the family invariably has immense pressure on the child as to how one should look. All through this, one does not realize how much mentally stressed it is and how this deep insecurity grows over the years with respect to food.
As we grow up, there is a whole world around us who try mock us, tell us that we must be a certain size, color, shape, tell us how to behave and talk a certain way. People judge us if we eat too much or if we do not eat at all. Some observe what and how much you eat. All these are something that affect almost everyone. But there is huge population of people who have insecurities and lack confidence which impact badly and when we go off wagon or let these things impact our mind, disorders like this are bound to occur.
Stress, Depression, emotional eating can also be some of the factors for BED.
People suffering from BED will develop health issues in a long run. The first and most primary will be weight gain and that too very fast. And because of the weight gain, the other issues arise like rise in glucose levels, hormonal imbalance and other ailments in the body.
The weight gain makes us get into crash diets which work very well for a short while but once it breaks, we lose control and binge eat again. It is like a vicious cycle. People suffering from this disorder usually cannot be on extreme diets as it will not work for them.
WHAT EXACTLY HAPPENS –
BED is, as many are unaware is a serious mental health issue and who are going through this would not even realize it for a while. BED is not something that happens to us suddenly, it grows over years. Initially starts with having food socially and if we are overweight, then every morsel that we take is being stared at by everyone around us. That is when we start getting conscious and eat very less in front of everyone and start eating huge quantity or high calorie when we are alone. Like any other addiction, even this gets to us. Sometimes, we just eat and do not even enjoy or realize the taste of the food we are having in that moment.
There comes a time when we realize that what we are doing is not right. The way we are eating is not normal. The binge is suppressing the stress, emotion or anxiety for little while and then they are back. The other worse part of this disorder is you binge and right after the binge, you have a deep regret as to why you had so many calories or so much food. But now its late you have done damage, you make up your mind that you will eat healthy starting tomorrow, but rarely will that happen as you we are sure on how to tackle the disorder.
So, once we realize about the disorder, first thing is to understand what situations that triggers an urge to binge. Take some time at that moment, think what is bothering you mentally- is it stress, loneliness, anxiety. Try to divert yourself by taking a short walk, few deep breathes, do something which takes your mind away from Binge.
ROAD TO IMPROVEMENT-
Admit you have a problem! Understand what is triggering the disorder. One important thing people with disorder have to understand is the extreme diets, eliminating/ avoiding foods just so you can lose weight; all these will not help us in a long run. We need to have a balanced diet, have in moderation for us suppress our urge.
For us to get mentally strong, we need to develop habits that we can look towards when we fall weak. One needs to realize that we cannot reverse the disorder instantly, it will take time and you have to be patient enough to go through it.
People around you may or may not understand the seriousness of your issue, some may even make a joke out of it. But have faith in yourself, if you have an understanding family or friends, reach out to them and if you think you are alone, believe that like any other problem, even this will heal if not today then tomorrow for sure. It is not easy and extremely hard but we all can do it. We are stronger than we think we are
Make your mind believe that you can get over it and you will not need food to deal with issues in life. A perfect figure or shape, human being with no flaws or insecurity is a myth and does not exist. Everyone who lives and breathes has their fair share of problems, yes some may have more or less but also the strength to deal with them.
All I say is we all are strong and beautiful the way we are. Often in difficult times when we feel weak, we must remember that we have the will power to be more strong and focused. Do not let anyone define who, what and how you must be. Make sure you have your own goals, desires, perception about yourself. If anyone ever tries to take you down or in any way big or small make you feel as you are not worth it, we do not need such kind of negative energy around or in our life. Sometimes we have our close friends or family who push you to be a certain way. If that something you do not want to be then you don’t have to be.
We all need to be happy, and health plays a prominent role in our happiness. Do not let all these triggers affect your health. Take charge of your health, your mind, your happiness. Do what makes you happy. Do not complain, compare or compromise.
Hope is stronger than fear; You are always and always stronger than you think you are.