It can be very irritating as well as disheartening to have people bring you down.
As humans, we’re all weak in heart.
It’s the tough exterior we are barricaded in that gives the idea we are strong, but really we all do get hurt sometimes and wish people were more selective of what they chose to say.
It takes a lot to become stronger, especially if you were once a softie, and by softie I mean, you cried at the least hurtful word and always were the one to take the first step in patching things up.
Well, once a softie, always a softie, but with a slight modification now.
I have learned that I can have a soft heart and be quite emotional, but I won’t allow myself to be moved by the hurtful things insensitive people say because it’s just their own mental issues doing the talking and not everything they say can be deemed concrete or reliable.
See, insensitive people will always have something mean to say against you. They will try to analyze every step and every move you make, and will reward you with their negative judgement, be it welcomed or unwelcomed.
They think they know you better than you know yourself.
They won’t listen to you defend yourself.
They will call you a liar and will immediately play ‘the oppressed and wronged’ role.
They are confident that their views, and their views only, are what count.
They will make light of any important statement you make, and when confronted will only go at you the ugly way.
So, yes, I may be a softie and may shed some tears at being hurt by someone who had previously shown me compassion and concern, but never by an insensitive domineering person.