“Marriages are made in Heaven”
That is the quote
Do you believe? or do You think it’s just a Myth ?
A.Those who believe in this say that,
1. There is a Cosmic Power that is responsible for the actions of people
and marriage is decided even before one is born.
2.Marriage is 100 % destined since it is under the influence of the
3. Whether it is arranged marriage or Love marriage,the same Cosmic
power is deciding the events to be unfolded for the perfect Date of the
B.Those who don’t believe in the proverb have plenty of
explanations,as to where Almighty has utterly failed.
I could imagine 6 scenarios from the point of view of these non believers of the above quote
1.If the proverb is true,why there are so many Divorces,so frequently ?
Divorce happening at the drop of a hat.Causes extending from silly reasons to financial
problems to infidelity to substances of abuse……you name it..it’s there.
2 .Domestic violence
Less said better,since these things are happening in so called developed
world,developing world and underdeveloped world.
3. Couple Incompatibility. What is couple incompatibility ?
No two persons are the same.even if you think that they are same in their interests and personalities ,still their individual reactions to the demanding situations vastly vary.
4. Ego clash
“I have never yet met with anything that was dearer to any one than his
own self” — -Buddha
No body can help if one is not able to avoid Egoistic attitude
5. Couple in illusion mode.
Many of us believe in Hollywood or Bollywood version of romance,passion,sex,hero
kissing the heroine,lots of colorful fireworks in the background,decorated
Horse,waiting for the couple,forever romance and happy endings.There is enormous
difference between living ‘Happily ever after ‘ and ‘Happily ever before ‘
One has to face the reality .
Things become entirely different after marriage-,like arrival
of children,loans,dealing with in laws,unnecessary fighting’,controlling anger etc.etc.
“So they were married ,to be the more together and found that they
were never again so much together Divided by the morning tea, By the
evening paper,By children and trades men’s bills”.
English poet Louis MacNiece
6.Extra Marital Affairs
Call it middle age crisis or fun and after a few years of married life ,people get bored,loose passion for love and start searching for new ways to get boost to their sexual need.
These are occasions when one needs self control.
Ultimately Who are we to question the Wisdom of the God ?
My feeling is,to let wife & husband recognize all their strengths and Weaknesses and be
helpful to each other and their family at the same time knowing and even realizing the
Greatness of what is known as Institution of Marriage‘
“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy
Behind every happy couple, lies two people who have
fought hard to overcome all obstacles and interference
be that way .Why ?? Because it’s what they wanted. ‘
Glad,You reached this point .Kindly share your views and ideas on ‘Institution of Marriage’
Thank you. Philosophy through photography
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