Wife & Husband -Can’t they be best friends for life ?

Wife & Husband -Can’t they be best friends for life ?
A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other

“Marriages are made in Heaven”

That is the quote

Do you believe? or do You think it’s just a Myth ?

A.Those who believe in this say that,

Wife & Husband -Can’t they be best friends for life ?

1. There is a Cosmic Power that is responsible for the actions of people

and marriage is decided even before one is born.

2.Marriage is 100 % destined since it is under the influence of the

Almighty.

3. Whether it is arranged marriage or Love marriage,the same Cosmic

power is deciding the events to be unfolded for the perfect Date of the

marriage

B.Those who don’t believe in the proverb have plenty of

explanations,as to where Almighty has utterly failed.

I could imagine 6 scenarios from the point of view of these non believers of the above quote

1.If the proverb is true,why there are so many Divorces,so frequently ?Wife & Husband -Can’t they be best friends for life ?

Divorce happening at the drop of a hat.Causes extending from silly reasons to financial

problems to infidelity to substances of abuse……you name it..it’s there.

2 .Domestic violence2 .Domestic violence

Less said better,since these things are happening in so called developed

world,developing world and underdeveloped world.

3. Couple Incompatibility. What is couple incompatibility ?Wife & Husband-cann't they be good friends for life ?

No two persons are the same.even if you think that they are same in their interests and personalities ,still their individual reactions to the demanding situations vastly vary.

4. Ego clash

I have never yet met with anything that was dearer to any one than his

own self” — -Buddha

Wife & Husband -can n't they be good friends for life ?

No body can help if one is not able to avoid Egoistic attitude

5. Couple in illusion mode.couples-illusion

Many of us believe in Hollywood or Bollywood version of romance,passion,sex,hero

kissing the heroine,lots of colorful fireworks in the background,decorated

Horse,waiting for the couple,forever romance and happy endings.There is enormous

difference between living ‘Happily ever after ‘ and ‘Happily ever before ‘

One has to face the reality .

Things become  entirely different after marriage-,like arrival

of children,loans,dealing with in laws,unnecessary fighting’,controlling anger etc.etc.

“So they were married ,to be the more together and found that they

were never again so much together Divided by the morning tea, By the

evening paper,By children and trades men’s bills”.     

English poet Louis MacNiece

 

6.Extra Marital Affairswife & husband can't they be friends for life ?

Call it middle age crisis or fun and after a few years of married life ,people get bored,loose passion for love and start searching for new ways to get boost to their sexual need.

These are occasions when one needs self control.

Ultimately Who are we to question the Wisdom of the God ?

My feeling is,to let wife & husband recognize all their strengths and Weaknesses and be

helpful to each other and their family at the same time knowing and even realizing the

Greatness of what is known as Institution of Marriage

“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy

marriages.”

Friedrich Nietzsche
why can't wife & husband be good friends for life ?
A happy relationship is made of two good forgivers

Behind every happy couple, lies two people who have

fought hard to overcome all obstacles and interference

be that way .Why ?? Because it’s what they wanted. ‘

Unknown

Marriages are made in heaven

Glad,You reached this point .Kindly share your views and ideas on ‘Institution of Marriage’

Thank you.   Philosophy through photography

Images source google images,pixabay,Some quotes unknown

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29 thoughts on “Wife & Husband -Can’t they be best friends for life ?

  1. Ultimate post! Loved it, Keep it up 🙂

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  2. Wonderful post !! One of the beautiful relationships that needs to be understood by the partners..

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  3. Its marriage in bullets……and i love it

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  4. Wonderful post, yes my partner is just like my best friend… understanding is very important

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  5. This is so true and a well-written post! Thank you. 🤗
    It does take understanding, comprimise and forgiveness to make it through the years…

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    1. Thank you Christy Istrate. Yes…forget the momentary fights and strive for the forgiveness makes all the difference. Other wise how can be role model to our children ? Thanks for taking your time.

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  6. Thank you.Your thoughts resonate with that of mine

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  7. Im still 20. But i wanna marry my girlfriend after seeing this post

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  8. Hi Vishnu,Glad you are still 20 and fortunate to have another lovely year to continue the wonderful present friendship to be continued after the marriage.

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  9. Marriage is divine….. yes can’t agree more…. .but the people involved are human.

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    1. Agree. But humans are given an opportunity to correct themselves unlike any other living beings, by Almighty.The problem is EGO.Thank you Anamika for expressing your thoughts.

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  10. Lovely post and very true.

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  11. Awesome post….The fact being marriage is a union of two transparent minds who respect and accept the difference between duo without much of conflicts.

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  12. “True love doesn’t happen right away; it’s an ever-growing process. It develops after you’ve gone through many ups and downs, when you’ve suffered together, cried together, laughed together, loved together.” Ricardo Montalban

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    1. Excellent quote. apt too.Thank you so much

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  13. I do believe marriage is an institution created and arranged by God. In His word he not only sets the parameters but also provides guidance to find a good marriage mate and how to keep a marriage strong. The problem is people don’t adhere to the guidance provided. One of my favorite scriptures is Isaiah 48:17,18 which says, “This is what Jehovah says, your Repurchaser, the Holy One of Israel:“I, Jehovah, am your God,The One teaching you to benefit yourself,The One guiding you in the way you should walk. If only you would pay attention to my commandments!Then your peace would become just like a river And your righteousness like the waves of the sea.” Being friends first is very important. As one of the other commenters mentioned, true love develops overtime. Going through trials together, crying together, consoling each other and reminiscing together draws you closer and deepens your love.

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    1. Thank you.Appreciate taking your time.Yeh,being true friends through out their lives makes all the difference.

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  14. Though some sad points, very well done.
    ❤️🦋🌀

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    1. Thank you Sheila Murrey.I think one can overcome the initial misadjustments and egostic tendencies with patience and be role model to other couples

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      1. I think you can too. ❤️🦋🌀

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